Pam Gay — Retiring County Coroner, My Friend ❤️
I’ve been struggling to decide which article to share about Pam, because there have been so many written — and every one of them is worth reading or watching. But no article can fully capture who Pam is to those of us who truly know her.
In 2014, when I first realized the opioid epidemic was going to affect our family, one of my kids said, “Mom, the county coroner and Dave Sunday from the DA’s office are on TV talking about this drug problem.” I was already scared, already making calls, already trying to figure out how to save my child.
The next day, I reached out to both of them.
Pam answered immediately. Dave Sunday called me back shortly after. From that moment on, I was on a mission.
Around that same time, I met Vickie Glatfelter, and together we brought the York Chapter of Not One More to life. Pam didn’t just support our mission — she believed in it. She showed up to the Heroin Task Force public meetings and shared her knowledge and expertise, but even more importantly, she spoke from her heart. Her compassion for those suffering from addiction, and for the families left shattered in its wake, came from painful firsthand experience — and it showed.
Pam has always been a huge supporter of Not One More, and of every family searching for hope in the middle of unimaginable loss.
The reason Pam and I met — and the reason I met so many of you I now call friends — was for all the wrong reasons. But it led to a friendship I will always treasure. Thank you, Pam, for welcoming me into your home, for introducing me to your family, for listening when I needed to talk — and yes, for feeding me more than once (although I think your husband did most of the chef work 😁). Thank you for putting up with talking to me as I dropped many F bombs. Those moments meant more than you know.
I will always be grateful for the many times you joined me at 911 to help train new dispatchers — teaching them that behind every call is a human being, a family, a story. You taught compassion, empathy, and understanding in the moments when they matter most.
Pam, you have given so much of yourself to this community. Thank you for being so open and honest about your journey with Kim. Thank you for understanding how deeply I loved her, and for letting me know personally when we lost her. Even in the hardest moments, you were always thinking of others.
You will be deeply missed, but I know you’ve left your department — and this county — in incredibly capable and caring hands.
Wishing you nothing but peace, joy, and new adventures in your “retired” life. I can’t wait to see what comes next for you, because I know you’ll continue to lead with the same kindness, strength, and love that has meant so much to so many of us. 💜
Thank you!
Alyssa
President of Not One More York Chapter
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Our first Fences and Bridges group for 2026 meets on Monday, January 12. Please remember that pre-registration is required. If you have a child that you believe would benefit from this group and would like additional information please contact either Gina Slenker or Cindy Heath. Contact information is in the postFences and Bridges (F.a.B.) Club is a group for children ages 7-16 who have been affected by substance use disorder.
The goal of this Club is to create a safe place for children facing daily challenges resulting from the loss of a loved one or a loved ones’ struggle with addiction. The Club provides an opportunity to meet other children who share similar experiences. Activities focus on building trust, self-esteem, and confidence, encourages positive decision making and explores emotions and feelings.
Fences and Bridges is held the **second Monday of each month from 5:45 pm - 8 pm at Not One More Family Center located at 1337 East Market Street, York, PA.
Dinner is provided and will begin at 5:45 pm. Parents/guardians are welcome to stay and relax or children may be dropped off and picked up promptly at 8 pm.
PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED!
To register for this group, please email supportgroup@nomyork.org, or you may call one of the contact persons listed below.
For questions, please contact Gina Slenker (717) 676-2566 or Cindy Heath (717) 858-3830.
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NOM FAMILY CENTER OPEN HOUSE ~
We had our Open House at the Not One More-York Chapter Family Center on Saturday Dec 6th. This has been a dream of ours since we started this chapter in late 2014, and it finally came true!
When we first began NOM-York, Vickie Glatfelter and I would work out of our homes, and our storage areas were our garages. Eventually, we were lucky enough to have a small office on Loucks Road for a few years, but we outgrew that fast. We then switched to a few rooms in a building, which we shared with JFT, down the street from our current location.
When JFT closed, we ended up back in a storage shed until this past May.
We never had a space that was our own; we never had a space where we could put everything we had under one roof. We had our support groups spread-out all-over York County, and locations would change from time to time. We now have everything under one roof !
We want to thank everyone that took time out of their day to come see our new center. We are so excited for the future for NOM York Family Center.
We have two amazing kid's rooms for Fences and Bridges.
A coffee bar and two offices.
Two rooms for support groups to choose from, The Social Room and The C.A.R.E.S. Room. Family support groups can choose between a comfortable cozy room with couches or a just as comfortable atmosphere with tables and chairs.
We also have plenty of storage space !
Again, HUGE thank you to all that came to see us, sent their love and best wishes for NOM.
We could never do anything we have accomplished without the help and support of the community.
As we move into 2026, we will be sharing what is going on at The Not One More Family Center.
Stay tuned !
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Christmas Cheer 12-6-2025 SUCCESS!
Long overdue HUGE thank you to all that assisted with making this year's Christmas Cheer be our greatest year ever!
We had over 400 dozen homemade cookies made by the generous community to distribute to local recovery houses, detox and rehab facilities.
Thank you to all our bakers, so many wonderful folks spent their time, energy and personal funds to make A LOT OF COOKIES !
Thank you to York County Treatment Courts for supplying a ginormous amount of homemade cookies. Your contributions of cookies each year is so appreciated !
Thank you to Mark Weitkamp for going on the journey to pick up all the subs again this year and loading the truck while I stand there and act busy drinking coffee and taking pictures. He then hangs out with us and distributes the subs to the recovery homes as they come to pick up their goodies !
Thank you to Jerry's Great Valu in Red Lion for always making the subs, we appreciate their staff for spending the entire night before Christmas Cheer working to make delicious subs we purchased for the recovery community.
Thak you to Sue's Market in Wrightsville as well, this year we purchased 100 subs from them too as the need was so great for subs this year, thank you for delivering them to our Family Center!
Last but not least, THANK YOU to all the members of Not One More York Chapter Board and our volunteers for assisting with sorting the cookies and packing them up for the recovery community.
Merry Christmas to all !
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Fences and Bridges (F.a.B.) Club is a group for children ages 7-16 who have been affected by substance use disorder.
The goal of this Club is to create a safe place for children facing daily challenges resulting from the loss of a loved one or a loved ones’ struggle with addiction. The Club provides an opportunity to meet other children who share similar experiences. Activities focus on building trust, self-esteem, and confidence, encourages positive decision making and explores emotions and feelings.
Fences and Bridges is held the **second Monday of each month from 5:45 pm - 8 pm at Not One More Family Center located at 1337 East Market Street, York, PA.
Dinner is provided and will begin at 5:45 pm. Parents/guardians are welcome to stay and relax or children may be dropped off and picked up promptly at 8 pm.
PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED!
To register for this group, please email supportgroup@nomyork.org, or you may call one of the contact persons listed below.
For questions, please contact Gina Slenker (717) 676-2566 or Cindy Heath (717) 858-3830.
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